I was at a women in business networking event some months ago and, after I introduced myself to the group (my ‘elevator pitch’, if you like), one of my colleagues who I’ve known for a while turned to me and said “So, you can help me have it all?” I promptly replied, “No, I can’t help you have it all, but I can help you have what’s most important to you!”
Is there a difference, you might ask? I believe there IS a difference, and it’s important to consider what that is for you.
What does ‘having it all’ mean to you?
Do you really WANT it all?
Is it your goal, or someone else’s?
In my experience, I often see people chasing what they feel they ‘should’ want – often based on society’s expectations, pressure from family members, trying to keep up with the ‘Joneses’. The result is generally more clutter – of your physical space (i.e., ‘stuff’), your calendar, your mind, your energy.
When people examine this closely, what they often find is they don’t really even WANT some of this…but they feel they ‘ought’ to have it, so they chase it. Then, when they get it, they yearn for LESS. For more simplicity (see last Monday’s post for more on that). And then begins the arduous task of paring away what isn’t truly of value…to you, that is.
How do you discern what you truly want versus what is someone else’s want? First, it begins with your VALUES. What is most important to you in your life? What can you not live (or live well) without? What can you not stand? What values are you living when you are at your most vibrant?
Note: There are many ways to uncover your core values. If you would like assistance with that, and creating ways that you can live more fully aligned with YOUR values – not what others think they should be, please reach out to claim a complimentary consultation. I’d love to chat with you and see how I may help you truly prosper.
Once you’ve uncovered – or discovered – your own values, it becomes easier to stand firmly in them and know what to say ‘yes’ to…and what to say ‘no’ to…so you can work and live in greater authenticity and alignment.
And THAT, my friend, is what I call truly ‘having it all‘.