As I’ve been working with my clients recently, I’ve been mulling over the idea of “requiring more of ourselves“. I am very careful with language and want to suggest that “requiring more” is not necessarily the same as “doing more“.
I work with a number of busy, working women who try to juggle many different “balls” in their lives (of which work is only one, but a significant one). These fabulous women have a LOT going for them but, given the many pressures of their daily lives, but sometimes express frustration at not being able to do more.
I face similar challenges – as an entrepreneur and a mother – and, as a “recovering perfectionist”, find myself thinking about “requiring more” of myself on occasion. However, what this means is…in the CONTEXT of my VALUES and my PRIORITIES, finding ways to more efficientlyand effectively accomplish what is important to me and what enables me to honour the commitments I choose to make.
I encourage my clients to be intentional with their choices (yes, they are choices!) and to ensure that what they DO is consistent with their values and priorities – and to consider their choices in the context of their “Whole-Life Wellness“. As one of my clients astutely pointed out using a principle of economics, there is an “opportunity cost” to our decisions: for everything we say “yes” to, there is something else to which we must then say “no”. FYI, “no” does not mean “I don’t care about what your are doing” or “Your priorities are not important to me”, it simply means that “At this time, I am not able to commit my time/energy/attention/(fill in the blank) to what you are asking of me”. You are better to give 100% of yourself to your current priorities than spread yourself too thin and give only 25% attention to 4 things.
So, while I am a big proponent of striving for growth and development in our personal and professional lives, I encourage you to “require more of yourself” in a strategic, intentional way – one that reinforces and supports those aspects of your life that are most important to YOU!
Wishing you Whole-Life Wellness,
Gail

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