Archive for Emotional Wellness

Emotional Wellness is about knowing how our emotions may be controlling us and how we can turn that around so that we are using our emotions to achieve our goals.

As I’ve been working with my clients recently, I’ve been mulling over the idea of “requiring more of ourselves“. I am very careful with language and want to suggest that “requiring more” is not necessarily the same as “doing more“.

I work with a number of busy, working women who try to juggle many different “balls” in their lives (of which work is only one, but a significant one). These fabulous women have a LOT going for them but, given the many pressures of their daily lives, but sometimes express frustration at not being able to do more.

I face similar challenges – as an entrepreneur and a mother – and, as a “recovering perfectionist”, find myself thinking about “requiring more” of myself on occasion. However, what this means is…in the CONTEXT of my VALUES and my PRIORITIES, finding ways to more efficientlyand effectively accomplish what is important to me and what enables me to honour the commitments I choose to make.

I encourage my clients to be intentional with their choices (yes, they are choices!) and to ensure that what they DO is consistent with their values and priorities – and to consider their choices in the context of their “Whole-Life Wellness“. As one of my clients astutely pointed out using a principle of economics, there is an “opportunity cost” to our decisions: for everything we say “yes” to, there is something else to which we must then say “no”. FYI, “no” does not mean “I don’t care about what your are doing” or “Your priorities are not important to me”, it simply means that “At this time, I am not able to commit my time/energy/attention/(fill in the blank) to what you are asking of me”. You are better to give 100% of yourself to your current priorities than spread yourself too thin and give only 25% attention to 4 things.

So, while I am a big proponent of striving for growth and development in our personal and professional lives, I encourage you to “require more of yourself” in a strategic, intentional way – one that reinforces and supports those aspects of your life that are most important to YOU!

Wishing you Whole-Life Wellness,

Gail

Categories : Emotional

“They say it might rain…!”

Thursday, May 12th, 2011

It’s said that, if you have nothing else to say, you can always talk about the weather. And plenty of people have been doing just that lately. However, given our recent run of ‘hydration’, predicting rain is no longer news.

So far, it has been a very soggy Spring and, from people I’ve been talking to lately, it seems many are losing their humour with these “April showers” which are said to “bring May flowers”! After all, it’s almost mid-May already!

But, as with almost anything in life, there IS a bright side. Really!

The rainy weather we’ve been ‘enjoying’ is a perfect time for introspection – to give yourself TIME to actually THINK – about what you want, what you love to do, what ‘new life’ you will create in this time of natural renewal.

Sometimes, the nice weather comes on so quickly that we rush outside in a frenzy, without giving ourselves a time of transition between Winter hibernation and Summer  play. Why not take this opportunity to reevaluate what’s important to YOU, what YOUR priorities and desires are, and CREATE the coming season with intention?

Just trying to help us all “look on bright side”!

Happy Spring!

Gail

Categories : Emotional, Spiritual

So…we’re almost a month into the New Year now. Many of us started off 2011 full of great aspirations and intentions, embracing the possibilities of a fresh start, with the ever-present “New Year’s Resolutions”.

Did YOU set New Year’s Resolutions for 2011? How are you doing with them? Statistics say that as many as 25% of people who made resolutions have already abandoned them by this point. Are you one of the 25% – or are you still on track?

Either way, take a moment and pat yourself on the back! You are already a winner by setting goals and wanting to stretch yourself! After all, if we don’t have somewhere we want to go (a goal), what determines our direction each day, and how will we know when we get there?

If you (or someone you know) set some resolutions for the New Year, I’d love to hear from you:

  • WHICH AREA of “whole-life wellness” did your resolution address (Physical, Emotional, Relational, Spiritual, Financial, or Professional – or more than one)?
  • Are you STILL ON TRACK with your goal?
  • What is the BIGGEST CHALLENGE you’ve faced so far and how did you overcome it?
  • What’s your best piece of ADVICE to others who want to make a change (in any area of their life)?
  • What would be the BIGGEST HELP to keep you on track, or bring you back on track?
  • What is YOUR BIGGEST MOTIVATOR that makes you pursue this goal? (This is key!)

I invite you to Comment on this Blog –  join in the conversation!!

Looking forward to hearing from you,

Gail

It’s hard to believe that one week from today is Christmas Eve!! How are you doing in your preparations for the Holidays? Is everything “cooking along nicely” or are you sprinting from activity to activity trying to get everything ready?

One thing I know for sure: Christmas will come regardless of what we do and don’t have done! The universe doesn’t wait until we have everything perfect before allowing the Holidays to be upon us. Unlike in Who-ville, there is nothing that will stop the Holidays from coming. So…take a breath (in fact, I recommend breathing deeply and regularly!) and reevaluate all that you’re trying to do in advance of the “big day”.

And now, a question for you: what is your biggest Wellness Challenge during the Holiday Season? If you consider your “whole-life” wellness – looking at your Physical (Healthy Eating and Physical Activity), Emotional, Relational (Family & Friends), Spiritual, Financial and Professional  Wellness– what is the most difficult piece for you to keep in balance this time of year? I would invite you to develop one or two simple strategies to address your top challenge to aid you in maintaining greater wellness over the Holidays.

Let’s say you said physical activity is your biggest challenge. Then perhaps you could set a modest goal of exercising – walking, doing crunches, chasing the dog, whatever works for you – for just 10 or 15 minutes a day over the next week or two. Does that sound possible for you?

Or, if you’re like many of us, maybe your biggest challenge is eating well with all the added temptations available at this time of year. If that sounds like you, why not try to just plan ahead so that you first ensure you meet your basic nutritional requirements (getting adequate “real food” from the various food groups) and then enjoy the “goodies” of the season in a mindful way – be intentional with the things you choose to consume (and keep an eye on the quantities) and focus on what I call “worthy calories” – those things you really love! I like to bypass those less worthy and save my indulgences for the treats that are decadent to me. Then, for those you do choose, Enjoy Them Thoroughly!! That, too, is part of Wellness!

I would love to hear what your biggest challenges are and what strategies you’ve come up with to face those challenges. Please simply reply to this post to share your challenges and successes, or send me an e-mail. I’d love to hear from you!

Enjoy the Abundance of the Holidays, and Get Set for a Fabulous New Year!!

Gail

Great News for Kidney Patients in Canada!

Thursday, December 2nd, 2010

Kidney disease is something that is very close to my heart – it’s what took my mother too soon and what affects many members of my family.

However, there is GREAT NEWS on the national front.

Living donor kidney registry now Canada-wide

In a story covered by CTV news this week, it was announced that the Living Donor Paired Exchange is now extending across the whole country – with Quebec joining recently. This is great news for people who know someone living with kidney disease and want to donate their healthy kidney to that loved one – assuming there’s a match. Check out the story at http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Health/20101130/kidney-donor-registry-101130/

Kidney recipient ‘got life back’ thanks to swap program

In a related CTV News story, we learned of another way to give this gift. For those people who want to donate but who are not a match to their loved one in need, there is the option to be a “non-directed donor”. This means that you donate to someone else in need and another non-directed donor can donate to your loved one when an appropriate match is found. This is a great example of “what goes around comes around”! CTV News introduced us to a couple who know this first-hand: http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/Health/20101201/kidney-exchange-registry-101201/

It’s easy to become a kidney (or other organ) donor. You can register your choice on your Health Card and – please – discuss your wishes with your family.

I am so grateful that someone I don’t know chose to become a kidney donor – it gave us and our mom extra time that we otherwise would not have had!

And research – including my Master’s Thesis – indicates that it brings comfort and a sense of meaning to the donor family as well!

What a fine example of doing what we can to bring enhanced wellness to those we know – and those we don’t!

Wishing you all abundant health & wellness!

This blog is for YOU – tell me what kinds of things you’d like to see here, what types of support or information you may need, your thoughts on “whole-life” wellness – whatever’s on your mind. Also, I’d love you to send along resources and links you find particularly interesting too – let’s share what we see that may be helpful for others! (You can go to our “Connect” page and send a “comment” there.)

Please feel free to invite your friends, families, and colleagues to subscribe to our blog and e-newsletter too. The more we share our resources, the more we’ll be able to realize our goals of achieving and maintaining “whole-life” wellness!

Stay tuned in the near future when I share some TIPS for “navigating the shores” (to use a sailing metaphor) of the Holiday Season – helping you avoid some of the potential obstacles and be “real” during the Holidays and into the New Year!

Looking forward to connecting with you again soon!

In Wellness,

Gail